Food, family, fun. The holidays can be a time of fun and joy. But for many with the holiday season comes feelings of loneliness, stress, anxiety, and sadness. What to cook, what to wear, family coming to town, social obligations, financial stress, missing loved ones, too much to do and not enough time…. sound familiar? And now, of course, due to the recent tornado, the heartbreak in our very own Clarksville community is adding to our stress and sadness. If you are not feeling the joy of the holidays, you are not alone. Many of us are suffering from the holiday blues.
Taking care of our emotional, physical and spiritual needs can go a long way in reducing stress and getting us through the holidays.
First, make sure the expectations you have for yourself, and for others, are realistic. Are you spreading yourself too thin? Are you expecting too much from others? Are others expecting too much from you? Remember, you are one person and there is only so much you can do in a given day or during a given holiday season. Remind yourself that it is okay to say ‘no’. Despite what every Hallmark movie might depict no holiday is perfect. Allow for that.
Take time to identify your feelings and consider healthy ways to address them. If estrangement from family or the loss of a significant relationship is a factor, think of ways to bond with “chosen family” members or people you might see as possible inclusions in a friendship network. Find community events that everyone would be likely to enjoy, go out to dinner, or have your own celebration. Rediscover the joy of giving by surprising people with inexpensive gifts, such as homemade (or bought) cookies, candy, bookmarks, or ornaments. Give back to those in our community who have been affected by last week’s storm in a way that feels right for you.
If you are mourning a deceased loved one, think about ways you might honor their memory. You might buy a gift for a toy drive or angel tree that would be meaningful to them. Create a keepsake ornaments or light a special candle. Reach out to others. Attend Trinity’s Blue Christmas service. You will discover that you are not alone in your grief.
For those who are struggling due to loosing someone, something, or even everything in recent events, please reach out to your local church or us here at Trinity for support. Above all, carve out time each day for rest, spiritual reflection and prayer.